Well, Hello There...

I haven't posted anything in quite some time, but I figured it was time to update about my current on-goings. First and foremost, still jobless, but not exactly? I'm working part-time as a tutor at a community college in Queens which requires me to help out students with reading and writing and preparing them for their ACT exams at the end of the year. While working there I have made observations on my students and other students who come to the center for help. It shames me to see that foreign students are more willing to learn and put extra effort into their studying than the American born students.

It embarrasses me to see the native speakers struggling with reading and writing because it shows that our educational system isn't doing enough for its students. Or is it that the students aren't doing enough to help themselves? There can be many factors contributing to this disturbing trend I've been seeing and I fear for the future. When your native speaking student has no clue what the word "procrastinate" means, Houston we have a problem.

I think a lot of these issues of being unable to grasp reading well has a lot to do with homelife. If parents were more encouraging to their children about picking up a book rather than the controller to their X-boxes and Playstations, chances are they would not be struggling the way they are now. I'm not saying playing video games are bad, not at all, in fact studies have shown that they're actually good for the mind, but there should be that happy medium of feeding your brain with words and visually.

Anyway, despite my disappointment in American education, I try my best to help them out however I can. I will be updating soon, since I feel I need to divulge more of myself on the internet. I should start keeping a diary...

The Reason the World will End Before 2012....

If the world wasn't in a bigger mess than it is, Lindsay Lohan comes along and poo poos more on it. The rehabbed actress claims the cute E-trade commercial with the talking babies are defaming her name because they mention a milk-a-holic baby named Lindsay. Please read link below:

http://news-briefs.ew.com/2010/03/09/lindsay-lohan-sues-e-trade/

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LOL, Yes, I know, this has to be the most ridiculous accusation made in the history of Hollywood. I'm sure there are worse, but this one is probably the dumbest by far that I've heard in awhile.

Kids, do you see what prolonged usage of drugs does to you? This is even more of a reason to lay off any mind altering substances.

This was a short blog post because I wanted to share the stupidity that exists in this world.

Are you in a "Fake-lationship"?

Once again, there was an interesting topic discussed on the radio. This time it was about relationships that aren't quite relationships.

Make sense yet? Let me elaborate.

We surround ourselves by different types of relationships whether it's with our friends, family, significant others...BUT there is one that many don't know what to call.

"The Fake-lationship."

Fake-lationship(n)- Relationship between two people of the opposite sex that is purely friendly. They appear like they may be romantically involved because they do things couples may do, spends lots of time together, but no hooking up goes on.

Usually people in fake-lationships fail to see they are in one, until their friends make it a point to bring it up and ask if something is going on with their fellow fake-lationship-er.

I would know this firsthand because I've been in a few fake-lationships. I tend to get closer to my male friends and thus comes the development of my fake-lationships.

Now, some may confuse a fake-lationship with a friends-with- benefits kind of partnership, but get it straight, it's not. A fake-lationship is an innocent friendship between the two people where nothing sexual or romantic goes on.

In some situations a fake-lationship may result in more than just friends, in other cases it does take the friends-with-benefits road, and in some scenarios it may just stay the same until one or the other meets a romantic interest.

In my case, I am currently in a relationship that derived from a fake-lationship. Which is why hearing about the topic sounded eerily familiar. I remember our friends always questioning us if something was going on or they'd predict that something was going to merge from our friendship. Lo and behold they were right lol.

I guess this also pertains to the idea that Mr/Mrs. Right is right under your nose, but you're too blind to see it. They say relationships stemmed from friendship are usually the best ones...and I am a believer in that, but everyone is different.

Fake-lationships aren't necessarily bad, in fact they are probably good to have because they prepare you for when you're in an actual relationship.

And who knows, maybe by some crazy act of fate, that buddy of yours might be just who you're looking for ;-)

To Fight or Not to Fight?

This morning as I was listening to the radio they were talking about tactics couples use when they fight. Women are elaborate in their tactics. They can be passive aggressiveness, threatening or just be psycho--sometimes all three if you're a lucky guy. Guys are the type that will say screw you, go off and do their own thing and then deal with the issue when she's SANE. But the one method being spoken about this morning was the silent treatment. Now I don't know about you, but the silent treatment just wouldn't work out well for me.

1. I'm big mouthed
2. I'm too opinionated; therefore I always have something to say
3. I don't like there being tension for a prolonged period of time, so I'll probably be the first to break

It's kinda sad though how some people reserve to this and it doesn't get them anywhere to begin with. What a waste of time...if you're gonna be such an ass about it, just dump the person then.

One ridiculous case I heard was about some woman who had been giving her husband the silent treatment since December 29th. Now what i'd like to know is...WHAT THE HELL DID YOU DO? That is an awfully long time to ignore someone you are living with and if it had to go on this long, they should have called it quits at least last month.

I can barely go one night being entirely mad at my boyfriend because I don't like conflict as much as I may be the one who instigates it...lol. Hypocritical yes, but I'm still big enough to admit when I'm wrong and apologize. Going to bed mad is unacceptable to me, plus I'd rather not continue reducing the number of hours I sleep because I already look like a zombie from "Dawn of the Dead".

All kidding aside, if people could just set their egos aside, they'd see how easy it is to get rid of that burden on your chest and move it along. I'm sure there are other things that your energy could focus on.

Snow Day! Nay...

Remember when you were little and the first snowstorm of the season hit and all you could do was pray that school was canceled? for some reason when you get older and are no longer in school, those feelings somewhat change. Although a day off from work seems like a gift sent from up above...those who are not as fortunate actually have to trudge through the snow and deal with the crappy delayed MTA. Tomorrow New York is expected to get hit with a foot of snow and it's caused so much uproar that all schools are closed as well as some businesses.

Of course my job is open, but looks like I probably won't be making it in. I could use a day off, seeing as I feel like I haven't a day off to relax in awhile and it would be nice to just sleep in.
Being busy this whole time has made me neglect some things and I've realized my hair is beginning to look like a flat plant on my head...I found this haircut and color which I really liked on this American Idol contestant, Ashley Rodriguez:



Can't wait to get it :-)

New changes are a'coming....

This past week and a half has taken me down a different route than I'd expected recently. I can only say that it's a godsend because I was seriously growing bored with the emptiness of my life. I started interning twice a week at NYMetroparents magazine and am part of the editorial department. I FINALLY get to experience some aspect of journalism in an actual office setting and see what magazines are all about. Even though I just started I am liking it and hope it leads to something more promising than an unpaid intern position.
My duties entail researching topics which are supposed to attract parents and a kid related audience. So far they've been teaching me how to use their website and such...perhaps there will be some firsthand writing later on...
This week is doppleganger week on Facebook, which pretty much means you have to post a picture of a celebrity that looks like you. I'm one of the sad few that doesn't have a celebrity twin...and I'm cool with it. Sure I wish I could resemble some hot young starlet but at the same time don't I value my individuality? I guess I'm glad I can proudly say I'm one of a kind ;)

2010...another year closer to 2012

With the new year in full tact I see people making all these resolutions that will probably be broken by the beginning of next month. You know the drift join a gym, work out 5 times a week for an hour soon will become just another bill in the mail that fills you with guilt for not having gone that entire month. Then there are the healthy eaters who usually go hand in hand with the new gym goer...they swear they can stick to salads for the rest of the year for lunch, but then they pass by the nearest Ray's Pizza and that goal goes out the window.

As for me...I don't think I've ever made any resolutions and I plan on keeping it that way. Making resolutions are only meant to make us feel guilty when we somehow go down the wrong path.

Aside of the new year and soon to be broken potential resolutions, I would like to reflect on the year that just passed.

2009 taught me a lot about myself and 2010 is so far teaching me more that I didn't know.

For one, I have learned to trust my instinct. Too many times, I've ignored it simply because it didn't seem logical or I just wanted to rebel and see what doing this or that would be like.
Each thing I've done I can admit my gut told me not to do it,and yet I did and regretted it. Of course life is too short for regrets, so I sucked it up and just moved on learning valuable lessons.

I learned what true love is and what it feels like for once.
You know how when you're a little girl and dream of meeting your prince charming, when it happens, it's never the way you envisioned it.

This past year I fell in love with my best friend and even though we argue and have stupid pointless fights, I wouldn't give up what I've been blessed with because I love him. So, at least I learned my lesson when it came to men.
Remember if a guy makes it clear that he wants one thing and you want another...and think you can change his mind. Spare yourself the pain and take his word--he means what he says and anyway chances are you can probably do better anyway.

I've learned or rather I'm still learning to believe in myself. with this crappy economy working at a retail store with a degree doesn't do much to boost my self esteem. But I'm accepting that this was inevitable and that things will get better...I just hope my writing doesn't get rusty.

with 2010 just beginning I'm wondering what great things this year will bring for me and those who surround me. I'm excited to face the good the bad and the ugly because that's just life as we know it...and we're a year closer to 2012. If the prophecy for 2012 comes true and I still haven't done anything with my life, I'd be uberly depressed but probably not around to even have that feeling.
Anywho I'm jumping ahead of myself and that's not for another 2 years and perhaps then I'll be a different person than the one writing before you now.